I know what you mean. I actually would rather look at really suggestive fanart or vids than ones that are legitimately NC-17 porny, because when there are penises visible I just stare at them with a furrowed brow, thinking, "Really? That... really?" It quite ruins the mood.

I LOVE IT. Sometimes I start humming that song to myself and have no idea what it is, until the image of Jim Kirk staggering around an ice cave flits through my mind and I am compelled to go watch it for the umpteenth time. My other favorite (which I think...you recced?) is Fist/Kiss, because hello, angry sex! What could be better?