Oh, one good thing about Australia (though we have no gay marriage) is that "partner" is a term commonly used by all kinds of couples, so forms often just have "partner" rather than husband/wife, as it's illegal to discriminate between de facto and married couples (unless you're a gay couple wanting to adopt but let's not go into that now.) It means that you can be stealth-gay in casual interactions pretty easily: "this medication is for my partner". OTOH, it also contributes to invisibility.