That's terrible! Especially because when you're looking for a diagnosis you're reliant on people believing you about your bodily experience and your history, and if people keep ignoring you it takes so much longer. :(
For me, I got it from people who said they were queer-friendly doctors, even. But some doctors seem to be so invested in disbelieving their patients - who they assume lie about sex, drugs, alcohol, etc - that they end up ttly not believing in, like, the existence of queer people. That's my experience, anyway, that it tended also to be the doctors who thought I was lying about how much I drank or whether I used drugs, a kind of skepticism that assumed heterosexuality as a default and unprotected PIV sex as the thing everyone was lying about. Nobody could ever always use protection, or ever always have non penetrative sex, or whatever, we were all lying about something. (My ex was a doctor and talked a lot about the way medical training directed doctors to disbelieve their patients.)
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For me, I got it from people who said they were queer-friendly doctors, even. But some doctors seem to be so invested in disbelieving their patients - who they assume lie about sex, drugs, alcohol, etc - that they end up ttly not believing in, like, the existence of queer people. That's my experience, anyway, that it tended also to be the doctors who thought I was lying about how much I drank or whether I used drugs, a kind of skepticism that assumed heterosexuality as a default and unprotected PIV sex as the thing everyone was lying about. Nobody could ever always use protection, or ever always have non penetrative sex, or whatever, we were all lying about something. (My ex was a doctor and talked a lot about the way medical training directed doctors to disbelieve their patients.)