Thanks for sharing this. It feels... I don't know if it's meant to make me feel this way, but I'm sitting here simmering in anger on your behalf. Sigh. I know things are so much better than they used to be on gay issues—I mean, even in my lifetime things have gone from "get warned by an older lesbian to keep calm and try to pass" to "oh hey, cool, you're gay, no biggie"—but there's still so much to go.

Mostly I don't mind coming out—I mean, I've been doing it for half my life by now, so it's just another thing about me that I've figured out how to mention. But recently the thing that's started tripping me up is that I'm trying out OkCupid for dating, and I've been out with a couple of guys, and having to somehow work into the conversation that I also date girls is really odd. Like you said, I've done it often enough now that I can watch the thoughts pass across their faces. (Holy shit, that's hot! is usually the first, sigh.) I haven't yet met a guy who's been cool enough to go, "Huh, okay, cool," and move on. When I do, maybe he'll be a keeper. You wouldn't think that'd be such a hard response.