No. You don't get to make this about you. You don't get to be angry. It's not -- I don't care who are you, family or best friend forever. You don't get to be angry that a queer person was afraid. People can and have been certain that someone close would react fine, wouldn't care, and then were wrong. I know people who've had that experience. It's not rare; it's a perfectly rational and well-founded fear. So, no, you don't get to be angry and if you are I'm going to want to punch you in your self-centred face for making it about you and your feelings and not the fear and worry your friend was facing.

Amen.


how often do you get the thing where coming out bounces off people?

I've given up on coming out to my dad, because it doesn't seem to break through to him. So he'll act like I'll eventually get married to a man and I'll be like "whatever" and change the subject. Because I'm done coming out to him. If I ever have a SO, I'll ask them about how they want me to approach it with my dad (I'd probably do a very succinct e-mail), but until then, I just do not have the ability to care anymore.