Indeed. I always feel a touch out of place when I'm, say, going to the company pride group meetings, or whatever. Yes, as a matter of fact, in RL I'm quite obviously male, and my partner of 20 years is quite obviously female, and what do you mean bi - I should be safely out of the relationship weirdness pigeonhole. And that's before we, unlike you, throw in our much less obvious pipe wrench of nonmonogamy (old college friend: "WHAT? You're poly? But you're so ... normal! You never have any drama!" *wince*).

I often feel, if I'm "coming out" or stating my bisexuality, that I'm expected to be looking for something that I don't currently have (another relationship? political recognition?) rather than just stating my preferences. Which mostly means that I don't make such statements and instead leave things in the realm of admiring hot bodies in the presence of friends that I know are all on the same page (yes, let's salivate over both John Barrowman and Alex Kingston now, shall we?). The casual/less-close acquaintance encountering my sexuality is almost always going to have political overtones, in the form of challenging their assumption of both my straightness and my monogamous-ness. Sometimes I'm up for being an example, and sometimes that's just on a need-to-know basis and you just don't need to.