Oh, ew. That is unprofessional bordering on scary-lack-of-boundaries. Really disturbing. Sometimes I wish I could channel a Southern Belle persona and be all "Bless your hearts, how good to know that someone actually cares!" and essentially get them to look forward to their journeys to Hell, but I shouldn't have to rely on diplomatic deception because a site is full of assholes. I mean, maybe it's not, but they tend to be vocal.

What kind of author responds nastily to their own reviews?!

Wish I had a better place to recommend for you. I'm so sorry you experienced that. It seems that in many or most popular Internet hubs, it's always Open Season on women, and hunting signs are nailed to every tree.

David Wong of Cracked once made fun of the ways male authors too often depict female characters. ("She contemplated her huge boobs as she walked across campus, boobily." Or something similar.)

"If your website is full of assholes, it's your fault." - Anil Dash