Dear god. Looking at this from the non-queer angle even I can see the serious risk factors involved.
But what caught my attention from the moment I saw the title here was the disability parallel. A major problem we have as disabled people is the belief the most intimate details of our medical history are public property, and I see a distinct parallel in the position Bear is taking. There are different mechanisms at play, with disability the belief we're public property is a form on infantilising us, with the situation here it is at least focused on the other person and a relationship that doesn't snub their identity. But he gets there by disregarding every right of the letter writer to figure out their own identity before requiring them to announce it. I'm not sure if that's infantilising them, but it's definitely not allowing them the respect he demands they give the other guy.
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But what caught my attention from the moment I saw the title here was the disability parallel. A major problem we have as disabled people is the belief the most intimate details of our medical history are public property, and I see a distinct parallel in the position Bear is taking. There are different mechanisms at play, with disability the belief we're public property is a form on infantilising us, with the situation here it is at least focused on the other person and a relationship that doesn't snub their identity. But he gets there by disregarding every right of the letter writer to figure out their own identity before requiring them to announce it. I'm not sure if that's infantilising them, but it's definitely not allowing them the respect he demands they give the other guy.