I'm the last person who ought to be giving anybody advice about any sort of social endeavor, online or not. But I will say that your comments are always welcome in my LJ, and make me neither amazed nor defensive, but instead just kind of yay and happy.

(Which, I know, is exactly the kind of thing you *didn't* want people to say. But your actual question beats the heck out of me, so you'll just have to make do. *g*)