I’d assumed, from the number of comments you get per post, that you are busy all the time on LJ. (I’d also assumed that that’s why you don’t answer all your comments, too, time issues.) And that there are just a ton of people trying to get your attention all the time, and back in... September? you and I exchanged emails and you were so in-depth and thoughtful and wonderful and I never replied. (Seriously, sometimes that haunts me, but that’s neither here nor there.)
But I was honestly surprised that you had the time to email with me in the first place. I guess I assumed that you already have a core group of people on LJ with whom you communicate regularly, just like I do. And maybe the people surprised by your comments are thinking the same thing? That you do comment, just not to them, and that your commenting is a change from a pattern of yours? Kind of that between having a core group, and replying to the comments that your posts generate, you're already at capacity, socially.
And for the record, I’ve been pleasantly surprised on more than one occasion when I’ve found a comment of yours in someone else’s LJ. Your comments are so well thought out and funny, it’s like finding really great commentfic. It doesn’t surprise me that you’re an infrequent commenter, come to think of it; you’re doing quality over quantity.
As for me, I pursue people online more than I’ve ever done in RL. I’m not very social in person either. ::allows same pause for my RL friends to die laughing:: But I got on LJ a couple years back, pursued some folks, and then switched fandoms, pursued some more folks, and in between my two big social phases, I settled in. So I said in the poll that I’ve become less social, but I do reach out and touch the occasional stranger when the situation warrants it.
I know for a fact that if I’d found you earlier in my fannish experience, I would have talked your damn head off because I think you are clever and scathingly funny and you really should have a newspaper column or something, and I would have been internet-clueless enough to not be put off by the fact that you are really nifty. I enjoy the hell out of you, but honestly? I didn’t know you were open to finding friends. Because (hmm, I may have to re-vote in the poll about this), you don’t post personal stuff, and usually that’s an indication that someone’s not looking for buddies. So, yes, maybe that’s another reason that people are surprised by your comments. You seem like more of an essayist (is that a word?) than someone who's looking for someone(s) to shoot the shit with.
So that's my two cents. I vow to reach out and touch you more often whether you want me to or not. Lucky you!
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But I was honestly surprised that you had the time to email with me in the first place. I guess I assumed that you already have a core group of people on LJ with whom you communicate regularly, just like I do. And maybe the people surprised by your comments are thinking the same thing? That you do comment, just not to them, and that your commenting is a change from a pattern of yours? Kind of that between having a core group, and replying to the comments that your posts generate, you're already at capacity, socially.
And for the record, I’ve been pleasantly surprised on more than one occasion when I’ve found a comment of yours in someone else’s LJ. Your comments are so well thought out and funny, it’s like finding really great commentfic. It doesn’t surprise me that you’re an infrequent commenter, come to think of it; you’re doing quality over quantity.
As for me, I pursue people online more than I’ve ever done in RL. I’m not very social in person either. ::allows same pause for my RL friends to die laughing:: But I got on LJ a couple years back, pursued some folks, and then switched fandoms, pursued some more folks, and in between my two big social phases, I settled in. So I said in the poll that I’ve become less social, but I do reach out and touch the occasional stranger when the situation warrants it.
I know for a fact that if I’d found you earlier in my fannish experience, I would have talked your damn head off because I think you are clever and scathingly funny and you really should have a newspaper column or something, and I would have been internet-clueless enough to not be put off by the fact that you are really nifty. I enjoy the hell out of you, but honestly? I didn’t know you were open to finding friends. Because (hmm, I may have to re-vote in the poll about this), you don’t post personal stuff, and usually that’s an indication that someone’s not looking for buddies. So, yes, maybe that’s another reason that people are surprised by your comments. You seem like more of an essayist (is that a word?) than someone who's looking for someone(s) to shoot the shit with.
So that's my two cents. I vow to reach out and touch you more often
whether you want me to or not. Lucky you!