See, now, when I said I disagreed, I meant I thought you gave him too much credit. I see him as being sort of impersonal, all, "So...this is the part of the evening where we touch each other." Like, he'd get you off, maybe a few times, but you'd wonder if he was actually paying any attention. He can be focused when he needs to be, but - yeah, I don't see him bringing that to sex with some random earth girl he's not especially interested in. Like, for example, me.
Re: oh, dear.